By Vanessa Lea
Life can be like a rollercoaster, with its ups and downs. It’s normal and okay to feel overwhelmed by the twists and turns that come our way.
When we face tough times, feeling scared or uncertain is natural. However, it’s important to remember that everyone encounters challenges in life, and we must remain positive to overcome them.
I’m not saying that it will always be easy to maintain control when fear and stress set in, but we should strive to enjoy and live our lives to the fullest, even in challenging times.
Recently, stressful situations within my family dynamic have affected my confidence and self-esteem. I sometimes worry about my ability to make sound decisions during these times.
To cope, I try to separate myself from the situation mentally and accept that I can’t control everything. If I don’t do this, the weight of the problem can be too much to bear, and I feel like a victim of circumstances.
But it’s challenging when I need to provide and maintain stability and positivity for a loved one directly involved in the chaos, even when I’m not feeling positive myself.
In the past, I’ve experienced clinical depression and have struggled with periods of intense sadness. This has made me feel unworthy and undeserving of life’s opportunities.
Sometimes, I am triggered by something without awareness, making me feel insecure, doubtful, and despairing. This can be a crushing experience that is overwhelming and exhausting to navigate.
During the years when I was severely depressed, my dad was my rock. He was so in tune with my emotions that he could recognize the exact moment when I started feeling the pressure from the negative thoughts that tormented me.
I trusted and had complete faith in my dad. I could confide in him no matter what deep-rooted secret I was hiding, and he wouldn’t bat an eye. I could always count on my dad.
Unfortunately, my father recently passed away, and I can no longer seek his guidance or comfort.
At 61, I still yearn for my dad’s comforting assurance that everything will be alright. Moving forward, I will be in that role and hold the key to assurance and comfort for myself.
I can only support and comfort my partner through our stressful family situations, which are not within my control.
I can provide my opinion and potential solutions and even share what I would do if it were my situation, but I cannot shoulder that burden.
Taking control of my emotions is crucial for alleviating the burden impeding my ability to function at the level I desire. Whenever my partner turns to me for
solutions, I sense an immediate transfer of his stress onto me.
Learning not to let his stress affect me and my emotions has been an ongoing challenge over the years.
Ultimately, I have realized that I must take care of myself first and foremost. I am no help to anyone if I allow stressful situations to consume my ability to make sound decisions.
Recently, I have discovered some powerful insights about myself that I realized are going to help me grow and thrive:
- I am solely responsible for my actions and decisions in life.
- It is my responsibility to prioritize my mental health and take every necessary step to improve it.
- I understand that the future is in my hands, and I can achieve my goals by taking positive steps towards living my best life.
Being a part of something bigger than myself has also encouraged me to take control of my life. I believe it will instill confidence and provide a broader perspective on my life.
By joining the Internet Profits System community with Dean Holland, I am empowered to enhance my affiliate marketing skills and generate income for the greater good. Together, we can make a real difference.
I feel incredibly blessed to be a part of a team of leaders and members who support, teach, and lift us daily. I wouldn’t be where I am today without Dean and the community.
My dedication to animal welfare is the driving force behind my pursuit of success in affiliate marketing. With the steps I am taking alongside Dean, I know it will become a reality.
Don’t hold on too tightly to life’s challenges. Embrace them like a rollercoaster ride and enjoy the exhilarating experience of overcoming them.
Take pride in your accomplishments and use them as inspiration to empower yourself.
Remember that you hold the key to your mind and the direction of your life, so take charge and make every day count.
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I’m sorry to hear about your dad.
I recently heard someone talk about how taking care of yourself is like what they tell you on a plan – put your own oxygen mask on first, then you can help the person next to you. We have to take care of ourselves, or we won’t really be able to help others (at least not for long).
Hi Vanessa!
You have overcome many twists and turns in your life. Reading your post and seeing how you’ve reached the insights of what you need for your personal health is a great accomplishment! Keep believing in yourself, Vanessa! Lean on the community for support with your affiliate marketing business! we are only a post or comment away – always!
You have a wonderful goal for your affiliate marketing business! One day at a time. One step at a time.
I look forward to your future posts, Vanessa!
All the best!
Milissa Neirotti
Vanessa, Your honesty about life’s ups and downs really resonates with me. It’s tough dealing with stressful family situations, especially when we’re still grieving the loss of loved ones. I admire your commitment to prioritizing your mental health and taking control of your life. Joining the Internet Profits System community sounds like a fantastic step forward, and I’m glad you’ve found support there. Remember, you’re not alone on this journey, and your willingness to share your story is inspiring. Thanks for sharing your insights and encouraging others to embrace life’s challenges with resilience and determination. Thanks, Atif
A couple of things that really stand out to me about your post, Vanessa: For starters… I truly feel it doesn’t matter how old you are… I think we will all be 5-yr. old children when it comes to our parents. I remember reading in your past post that your father had passed away not too long ago, and I know that’s still a heavy burden for you. I don’t care how old you are… that doesn’t mean it’s any easier.
Secondly.. I love this what you wrote, “I am no help to anyone if I allow stressful situations to consume my ability to make sound decisions.” We ALL have difficult periods in our lives, or difficult seasons. None of us are immune to that. However, it’s our response/reaction to that time that separates us and allows us to still be functioning human beings. You’re no good to anyone if you can’t stay grounded and thinking clear during those times. Life can fly off-kilter but that doesn’t mean you can’t stay grounded.
Very inspiring post. I thoroughly enjoyed it and personally took a lot away from it.
I.LOVE.This.Post! Your vulnerability and willingness to share your story for all to learn is truly inspiring! You have overcome so much and are still thriving in wonderous ways. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and motivating those that read your blog posts!
Your reflection on the ups and downs of life is moving and empowering. Indeed, navigating through challenging times can often feel like riding a rollercoaster, with its twists and turns, highs and lows. However, your resilience and determination to find positivity and growth in the face of adversity are truly inspiring.
Dealing with stressful situations can indeed take a toll on one’s confidence and self-esteem.
You’ve learned to cope by acknowledging that you can’t control everything and focusing on maintaining stability and positivity, especially for your loved ones.
Losing your father, who was your rock must be incredibly difficult, and I offer my deepest condolences.
You are stepping into the role of providing assurance and comfort for yourself and others.
It’s heartening to see how you channel your dedication to animal welfare into your pursuit of success in affiliate marketing, leveraging your skills and resources to make a positive impact.
Thank you for sharing your journey of resilience, growth, and empowerment. Your story serves as inspiration and encouragement, reminding us all of the power we hold within ourselves to overcome life’s obstacles and thrive.
Vanessa,
I am sorry to hear you are going through a tough time right now. I loved your statements that you are solely responsible for your actions in life, that it is your responsibility to prioritize and monitor your your mental health. Mental health is so important in every day life!
Sherri
Vanessa,
Life’s like a rollercoaster, full of ups and downs. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, but staying positive is key. Coping with family stress can be tough, especially without a support like your father. But you’re taking charge of your emotions and focusing on self-care. Joining a supportive community like the Internet Profits System is empowering. Your dedication to animal welfare and pursuit of success in affiliate marketing are admirable.
Keep embracing challenges, celebrating victories, and taking charge of your journey.
CJ
Hi Vanessa,
I cannot imagine the heartbreak and mental turmoil you are going through right now. I do hope the situation resolves itself soon. Kudos to you for realising that for you to be able to give support and understanding you must put your own health, both mental and physical, first. My best wishes and thoughts are with you.
Andy
Hi Vanessa, this is the kind of post that I like because it makes us think about ourselves and realize that we are never alone experiencing with something difficult to deal with. When we have children we want to guard them in every situation possible but we have to realize at some point that we can’t control everything and that we have to cease worrying and put confidence into life.
Martin
The loss of your dad is a tough one. My dad and I spoke on the phone everyday after my mother died until his dementia set in. That was 24 years ago and very recently I distinctly felt his presence. They are busy, I am sure but they check in now and then!
Hi Vanessa,
I’m sorry you’re going through such a hard time right now. I know it’s tough when there is conflict in your family that you have no control over. I think we all go through this at some point in our lives with family. I know what it’s like to have that special person in your life that you can talk to and help lift your spirits when you’re down. My mom is that person for me like your dad was for you. I can’t imagine not having her around to talk to when I’m down or having an issue. I’m so sorry you don’t have that with your dad anymore. Life can suck sometimes! Just hang in there. Nothing ever stays the same for long, and it always gets better. 🤗
Meredith
Hi, Vanessa! I like your statement, “Don’t hold on too tightly to life’s challenges. Embrace them like a rollercoaster ride and enjoy the exhilarating experience of overcoming them.” I’m learning to see challenges as exciting instead of devastating and your image of a roller coaster reinforces that! Exhilarating sounds so much happier than the way I often feel. I just need to reframe the way I think about things. This image really helps!
Thank you for that! I wish you the best in your health! It sounds like you’re embracing the power of the coping strategies above and more. My favorite is to make two columns. In the first, write everything I’m thinking. In the second, write what I can do about each thing right now. Let all the rest go, just for the moment. You can always reevaluate and maybe be able to do something about it later. I’m holding on to that roller coaster image! It’s making me smile 🙂
All the best!
Nakina
Vanessa, I want to recognize your bravery in sharing your story. I really appreciate your honesty. What is going on in our lives can seem overwhelming at times, and it is important for us to have as many tools in our toolbox to handle stress, anxiety, and all the other emotions that come up. Having a support system and someone to talk to, whether it is a friend, family member, or therapist, can be a huge help. I don’t know what I would do without mine. I love your mission, it is a really strong driving force, and I look forward to following your journey!
Hi Vanessa,
This was a very inspiring post! I understand your reference to a rollercoaster!!! I really liked your list of insights, I can identify with them as well and found it very empowering as I read your post! Here’s to making dreams come true, pushing through to success, being who we want to be!
Denny